You don’t just lose the person. You lose the past (all memories are now suspect), the present (your daily rituals are haunted), and the future (you can no longer imagine trust). It is an amputation of the self.
You replay the moment of discovery over and over, trying to find a different ending. Your brain refuses to accept that someone you loved could do that . the betrayal between them pure taboo
In the shadowy corridors of human relationships, there is a wound that does not simply heal with time. It festers. It whispers. It rewrites history. This wound is known as the betrayal between them —but not just any betrayal. We are talking about the kind that falls under the category of pure taboo . It is the violation of an unspoken, sacred contract that, once broken, shatters the very foundation of trust, loyalty, and identity. You don’t just lose the person
Here is the hard truth: You can forgive someone internally—release the rage for your own sanity—while never speaking to them again. In fact, many survivors of pure taboo betrayal find that the only peace comes from total estrangement. Because to stay is to accept a daily micro-dose of the original poison. The Third Rail: When the Betrayal Is Sexual We cannot discuss this topic without addressing the most extreme form: sexual betrayal between those bound by a pure taboo relationship—parent-child, sibling-sibling, or between a trusted authority figure and a dependent. You replay the moment of discovery over and
Therapists are divided. Some say yes, through a process of radical accountability (the betrayer must confess fully, take full blame, endure the victim’s rage, and accept permanent transparency). Others say no—some lines, once crossed, erase the possibility of a healthy relationship. You might coexist. You might fake it for the kids or for family gatherings. But the "between them" is gone. It has been replaced by a cold, wary negotiation.
In these cases, the betrayal is not just emotional. It is criminal. It is the violation of a sacred trust that society deems inviolable. Survivors of such betrayal often carry a unique burden: the abuse becomes their identity. They feel marked. They struggle with intimacy because the first person who was supposed to model love showed them predation.
Do not let their sin become your sentence. The betrayal exists between them , but your healing exists within you . Break the taboo of silence. Speak it. Write it. Bleed it onto the page if you must. Because the only thing more powerful than the betrayal between them is the courage of the one who survives it—and dares to trust again, not in the betrayer, but in themselves. If you or someone you know is struggling with the aftermath of a severe betrayal, contact a licensed trauma therapist or a confidential helpline. You are not alone, and the taboo was never yours to carry.